I like to share with you how we raise our children as Catholics. Be certain that this is not a perfect model, just our own experience that we like to share with you as it is difficult to raise our children these days. I apologize for the informal format as time is a constraint for me to write.
1. Do it in the love of God and the love of them.
Once a friend of mine asked me how I dealt with teenager children as his were approaching adolescence and he did not know how to scope with the change in his children's behaviors. I said, " Actually it is really simple, whatever you do, do it in the love of God and the love of them".
My dear brothers and sisters, the most important task on earth for us as parents is to bring your children to Heaven, to help them to receive their eternal salvation, not college education, not nice car, house, job or anything else.
First thing is to love God in whatever you do as a family or individual and the kids will know, respect, and eventually imitate you in shaping their own lives for years to come and for eternity. "As of my house, we serve the Lord." the patriarch Joshua once said. When you put God first in your life and your family life, you do not compromise with the Gospel living, you do not appear a hypocrite to your children after leaving church after Sunday Mass. You build a good foundation for your children in developing their moral and characters.
I often tell our children that their main purpose in life is TO KNOW GOD, TO LOVE GOD, TO SERVE GOD. Everything else is secondary.
In many ways I try to illustrate that principle of Gospel Living: We pray as family and I pray often during the day; my love for the Lord Jesus and Blessed Mother is not questionable to them; we do not shop on Sunday; we do not watch anything indecent and violent on Sunday or any other days; we are faithful in 10% offering of our income; we do not rejoice or party on every Friday during Lent; we try not to talk badly about anybody; we love and respect grand- parents and we command the utmost respect from our children toward us; we point out vanities and social ill and evil to our children; we do not encourage dating; we do not have regular TV broadcast or cable even we all like sport, etc.
Our children know that we try to be faithful
servants to the Lord in raising them even sometimes we made mistakes
or failed due to our own weaknesses. But one thing for certainty, they
know that whatever Mom or Dad does or decides, he/she does it for the love
2. Pray as the family.
I cannot stress this point enough - it is a must for families today to pray together to receive God's Grace in order to love the Lord more and more, to love one another, and to defend our families from the endless Satanic attacks. Every night we pray Rosary together whenever it is possible for us to do so. We also often read the Holy Scripture or spiritual readings for half an hour afterwards. Our little ones also pick up Rosary and began reciting the Hail Mary with us. But often they just watch a movie tape or playing with toys while we are praying. We pray for a greater love of our Lord Jesus, a greater love for Blessed Mother, conversion for all sinners, for our priests and religious, for poor souls in Purgatory, for the protection of the unborn, and so on. We pray because we love the Lord and our Lady, because we love our family, and because we love to save souls for God.
And about reading the Holy Scripture, my 12-year
old daughter once said to me, "Dad, most of what I learnt about Catholic
Faith came from what you read for us from the pictured Bible when we were
little. " I was surprised but very happy upon hearing that. Personally,
I am a fairly new Catholic, only for the last eight years. And I have to
say sadly that most I have learnt about Catholicism, I did on my own with
the help of the Lord and Blessed Virgin, not from any priests, nuns, or
catechists. My brethren, it is therefore so vital that you and your family
learn our true Faith among the abundant heresies floating around us and
against the complete silence from the church pulpit. Teach your children
and yourself our Faith by frequent reading the Holy Bible, catechism, and
other spiritual readings. Learn about the Love of God, Sacraments, The
Holy Eucharist, Church's Tradition, Church's Laws, Veneration due to Blessed
Virgin Mary, Sins, and so on. You owe it to yourself your own salvation
and the salvation's of your children. All the tools and resources are there
for you to tap. You cannot face the Just Judge later and say, " Oh, I did
not know as nobody taught me anything!" If I can do this much for God and
for souls by being a foreigner to this land and the Faith, you surely can
3. "A family without a father is like a house without a roof."
The above-mentioned statement is a proverb in my native country. I should rephrase it as follows, "A family without a loving father like a house without a roof." I feel sorry for many fathers who have no choice but spending a lot of hours at work, but many of them also use work as excuse to stay away from home, to shake off their responsibility as a father, to avoid hearing complaint from their worn-out, dispirited wives. "Husbands, love your wives as Christ loves His Church." How did Christ love His Church? He loves Her so much that He died for Her. Would you love your wife enough to die for her? I know that I would enjoy my lunch a great deal if I just went to Wendy or Burger King for a quiet lunch while reading the newspaper, but everyday I came home to join my family for lunch, to feed and clean the young ones, to take them for a walk, to talk to my wife or listen to her frustrations or disappointments of the day, or to share her good news. Afterwards, I was often full, but worn-out and tensed-up. Everyday before walking through the door, I say a prayer asking the Lord to give me strength to die to myself in order to serve Him. My friend, you have to die to yourself to love and serve your wife and your children. This kind of selfless father is the one your chidden deserve and the one who can have the most meaningful compassion to his wife. He will realize how much she sacrifices in raising your children and what she has to go through everyday. I stress so much on your love toward your spouse because you cannot have a good home for your chidden if you do not have love and compassion for your wife. Before we got married I assured my wife that "divorce" was not in my vocabulary ( I hate divorce), but I also expected to have a full authority in every major decision being made in our family. Like a kingdom which cannot have two kings, in our family I am the boss who has to take pain to make every major decision and fully shoulder the consequence, the boss who has to hand out painful disciplinary actions to the children, who is the boss to serve, not to be served. I came from a family where my mother and sisters served the males of the family. Thus I now understand to the fullest extent of what the Lord Jesus said, " I am the Master Who came to serve, not to be served." You cannot love the Lord or fully know Him through the Gospel if you do not live in It. Fathers, take charge of your family before it falls apart or before you lose it forever. But to command respect and submission from your wife and childen, first you have to be a loving servant to your family.
(More tips to come if you care to read later.)
Isreal and North Korea will be tied more closely
to Russia & Iran Alliance as they think that they will be the next
target of "peace settlement"by the New World Order. Isreal probably will
be too involved in the Civil War with Palestineans or will become neutral
at the onset of World War III. North Korea will not sit still watching
NATO to build up troop to invade or bomb them. They will attack first and
remember that they have weapons of mass destruction which can be launched
all the way to Japan. (4/20/99)
Do you know that the present sex education offered to elementary
schools including Catholic schools is based on the "scientific" research
on children sex conducted by Prof. Alfred Kinsey from Indiana University?
These sex education now provide the young minds with graphic genital sexual
acts. Are these "lessons" any different at all from pornographic materials?
Anyway, do you know that the same Kinsey used to make illegal porn movies
in his attic? Do you know he was a racist, practiced bisexuality and violent
sex acts? Do you know that Kinsey provided his "research associates" with
timers to time the "orgasms" from the children that they molested or raped?
(From Human Life International)
Do you know that peanut or peatnut butter, raisin, and chocolate
are loaded with natural antioxidants which are good for you? So just take
a handful of peanut, raisin, and Hershey kisses to fight off common cold
Now on the bad side, do you know that you consume the very same carcinogenic (cancer-causing) chemical in your meat which was banned in lubricating oil? In early 1970's, sodium nitrite was banned from machining oil or coolant because it could combine with secondary amine to form a deadly carcinogenic nitrosamine and would harm machine operators. But until now, meat packaging poeple are still allowed to use up to 0.1% sodium nitrite to preserve your meat, especially in lunch meat, hot dog, ham, turkey, hamburger, sausage, etc. Without it, the meat would have a greyish color instead of bright attractive red. Inside your body, sodium nitrite can potentially react with any secondary amine or amino acid to form nitrosamine which will tie up with DNA and consequently generate cancerous cells. So the "healthy" menu should include a grilled hot dog on a preserved bun, a big pickle preserved with BHT (butylated hydroxy toluene), baked bean cooked with the flavor-enhanced MSG (mono sodium glutamate), potato chips fried with patially hydrogenated vegetable oil, and an artificially sweetened soft drink! No wonder we fall dead left and right due to cancer!
Violence feeds more violence! There will be more school shootings
as long as violence is condoned in our society, violence in the womb to
the preborn babies, violence on TV, in computer games, violence in movies
and music. The whole culture promotes death and is fascinated with
killing and blood!! Kids can kill others and finally himself when they
feel like having nothing to live for, nobody to love. They feel utterly
alone and unwanted. So they continue to mass-murder to get publicity or
leave their own legacy as long as their parents continue to bring them
up with self-supporting bottle of formula milk, with day-care centers,
with baby-sitters, with big house, big TV, own phone and PC but with a
closed door and empty home with no sibblings, friends, relatives, and especially
without their own parents who are too busy working to make money and to
pursue their own carreers. Don't blame the kids, don't blame the guns,
blame the parents, blame the religious and political leaders!
Yesterday my wife squeezed our four-year old son and said, " Oh, I love you so much. You are a gift from God!" Our little guy quickly disagreed with his mother, said, "No Mom, I am not a gift from God, I am a gift to God." Have we ever thought having one more child for the love of God, to offer our children up to Him as our gifts and sacrifices?
The decay of morality and evilness in our society today lay squarely on the baby boomer and hippi generation of 60's, the generation which produces Bill and Monica, and whimpy Republican Congress. Shame on them who led the whole world into this ruin by abandoning their Faith and family traditions which brought much success into their lives and in turn they did not give their children and grand children to come the same chance they had. I will have a hard time to take care the selfish generation with my hard-earned Social Security money.
after Colorado school shooting, I hope NEA or National Education
Association will put prayers back in school now for their own sake.
(To be continued.)